Island Life and Looking Past Initial Judgements

Hello friends and family! I hope this message finds you having a great day. I’m currently in Seminyak, Bali. My sister, Shelly, and I just got back from Gili Air, a tiny island off the coast of Lombok. It was a really fun adventure! The island was beautiful and I loved the feeling of seclusion; There are no motorized vehicles only bicycles and horse and buggies.

Mode of transportation

It’s so tiny, in fact, you can get from the North to the South side in about 10 minutes on bike. It felt cozy and the vibes were good! It’s the kind of place where the only thing on the to do list is to watch the sunset while drinking a coconut.

Gili Air

Shelly and I spent our days on the beach, practicing yoga, reading, talking and just enjoying the slow pace of life. You see, since Shelly is a mother of three, the slow time out is exactly what she needs before she jumps back into her chaotic life.  I applaud her for taking time to care for herself which I believe will allow her to be an even better mother, wife, sister, etc. But, even more so, I applaud her husband, Wade, for running ship in her absence. I can’t imagine this being easy.

So, something that I keep noticing here in Asia, and want to share with you, is this idea of synchronicity. Or, what my teacher Kerry, at Vikasa, would call light language. Most people refer to these things as coincidences and brush it off as meaningless.  However, I truly believe that these are not to be ignored and they are incredibly meaningful!

To illustrate this, let me tell you a story..

A girl came up to me on the beach and simply asked what I was reading. “The Artist’s Way” I told her (which by the way I strongly recommend for anybody trying to find their creative voice). This prompted a conversation and we soon realized we had a lot in common. She is from a city only three hours from my hometown, she also had planned to move to Asia to teach English for a year but didn’t end up going. She had been diagnosed with Mono and ended up being really sick for an entire year. Her illness then inspired her to work on getting well and ultimately led her to make significant changes in her life. She’s now living in Asia. For those of you who know my story, this is ridiculously similar.

It’s weird right? And then to make it even weirder, when she gave me her email address, I learned her name is also Lisa Marie! My head was spinning and trying to analyze the meaning of this synchronicity. But then, I was reminded of something Steve Jobs said:

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”

So, I don’t know why for sure I met Lisa, and maybe never will, but it may have been to simply remind me of a truth.  And that truth is that we are more the same than different. Lisa looks very different from me on the outside. She has impressive dreadlocks that hang past her waist which she has been growing for 10 years! She is also a minimalist and chooses to wear the same thing each day.


I believe the lesson here is if we could just get past physical appearances and break down the barriers of culture, race, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or just simply someone’s style, think about what we as people could accomplish!

By understanding and meeting people where they are, so to speak, we create more love which I believe is the key to inspire change.

So, I encourage you today to look past your initial judgments of someone and dig a little deep. I think you will be amazed at what you find!

Okay – enough lecturing… I need to go pack my bag because I leave Bali tonight and head to the Philippines to meet a couple friends for a sailing excursion!

Thanks for following along on my journey!



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